Books and music. Those are the first things I always think about when I hear the words "safe haven".
I have not exactly had a smooth ride into adulthood. Not that anybody has, if you think about it.
I was bullied constantly for being really chubby in elementary school. I never fought back. Somehow I knew that being quiet until it was over or at least leaving the scene of the person whom is bullying me was the best way to handle it. That is what I have done with every confrontation I ever faced from elementary school through to senior year of high school. I just didn't "do fights", although they were certainly enough around me to jump in on.
My high school could be really volatile when it wanted to be. Any school that's been plopped in a low cost urban area seem to have more fights than schools with strong funding, to be honest. I have had my fill of watching two guys or two girls woven in a scrap for whatever reason. Some of the fights I had seen or heard of were pretty much about image (like trying to seem like the bad-ass of the fight), and some where pretty dicey and violent.
It can be stressful to be forced to deal with such drama day after day. This is why my escape, my safe haven, was books and music. I read so many books and collected so many CD's that all I would do in my spare time is sit reading a book or laying out in my bed listening to music. I was quite the audio/bibliophile in high school. While kids my age were experimenting with alcohol and drugs, I spent my freshman year deciphering the novel "A Clockwork Orange". When the popular girls played the "whose holding my hair while I puke in the toilet" game, I studied Monty Python's Flying Circus and The Kids In The Hall to see if it could make me a funnier writer.
I suppose it is my imagination that has always been my safe haven. The more I tap into it the calmer I get. Using my imagination whenever and wherever I can seems to be my life's calling.